A balanced state of mind…..

The whole world begins to crumble when things do not happen the way you want it to happen..

Frustration sets in  accompanied with anger & irritation….The same persons whom you had loved & cared for ,till yesterday, seem to you like enemies today…..They have absolutely not changed but it is your way of looking at them….It sounds weird ,but yes,it does happen….You feel like crawling into your own shell, but there is no peace even there……You feel ,people are looking at you very strangely, whereas ,the truth is they are busy in their own lives & have no inkling at all about the state you are in……

The problem is, when you are happy, you look at the positive side of things & when you are down & unhappy, everything seems to look topsy turvy…..To come out of this state , takes a lot of will power, courage & self confidence which, however hard you try, doesn’t surface up at that point of time .. 

Instead of looking & introspecting your state, you are busy searching for the opinion of others…What will others think of you , is the main question that keeps bothering you……Instead of trying to come out of this depressed state , you search for solutions outside you …You are so engrossed in the outside world that you forget your own ,pure self……

To be completely balanced in whatever state you are in, is the true key to happiness……That is God’s will……He wanted it to be that way….Leaving it at this, you have to move forward ….What has happened is something for the good that is in store for you ahead…..Yes, you may say ,it is easy to preach……….Absolutely agreed, but just contemplate……Past is phase that has gone & cannot be amended so why not forget & look forward……What others think is their opinion which you cannot change……But ,you can definitely make changes in yourself…….

new year resolutions…..

Another new year dawned with lots of hope & resolutions……

To be calm in whatever circumstances we are in ,is something very difficult to achieve…..and whoever wins over this is the most blessed one on this earth….

There are situations in life we can change if approached with a daring attitude but somewhere within , our innate nature & attachment towards our people prevents us from doing it and we remain where we  are …suffering ,helpless ,all alone….. This brings us closer to reality, which helps us come to terms that we have to fight our own battle with people who are supposed to be our very own ,but who have very smartly shrugged off their responsibility citing various reasons best known to them….. Even wanting to avoid them ,…we cannot and that is the greatest tragedy……

Frustration sets in, when people ,even the so called unconcerned ones start giving sermons, totally uncalled for….Such situations teach us a lot in life……We come face to face with the true nature of a person that how some can dump their duty & responsibility on others ,yet create a totally different impression outwardly …..be totally unaffected and indifferent  towards others and yet be so cool & happy…….

Anger & resentment builds up …..To forgive & forget is very easy to say …..We can forgive someone who has unintentionally harmed us but who has done it knowingly  can never be forgiven……for they have destroyed the life of another  person with their selfish attitude…..

The persons who can be calm & stable,whatever the situation may be, are really an admirable lot ……Yes, to achieve this is really very difficult….It does require a lot of will power & patience….& those who have achieved it have definitely conquered themselves………I m trying to do it….