The ups & downs -Phases in one’s life…..

Sometimes ,it so happens that what we preach becomes our own guiding force…

It is always with a positive approach that I look at things…..But ,in some rare cases , I too fall into that trap ……..that trap of negative thinking……….It forces me to retrospect what I ve preached…..

Today, the day itself started on a negative note…..However hard I tried to erase the negativity out , it was rather very tough……

I tried to read all those wonderful quotes from my collection, but it still didn’t seem to work out……I went to the shopping mall , but everything seemed so distressing…..It happens sometimes, I thought to myself…….

When you are passing through that phase, nothing can help you come out of it…You need  to analyse the root cause of it & a strong will power to come out of it…….

I just sat quiet & tried to find out the reason of my disinterest in everything…….

I m not going to let this happen to me…….I just tried to divert my mind from that which was disturbing me…….It was a very difficult …….The more I went away, the closer I came to it…….I feared that I may lose out on a very good friendship due to a petty misunderstanding…….I wanted to clear all the doubts…..I was physically present in whatever I did, but mentally I was somewhere else……..

After a lot of courageous thinking, I decided, come what may, I m not going to let this turn my world topsy turvy……..When my thoughts went back, I just took my mind away from it….I did this repeatedly & eventually I just seemed to succeed………

Yes, these are trying times in one’s life………Ups & lows …….There can be absolute peace only if you are not affected by the petty things that happen around……..Just let them be till the heat subsides……then think about it with a cool mind……

‘Yes” or “No” – A tug of war……..

How many times have we been confused with this “yes “ & “no”?

Sometimes, we do find it difficult to say an emphatic “No”, though we really wish to . It takes a lot of courage to say “no” & to stand up for what we feel is right.

Sometimes, I do wonder as to why do we hesitate to say an effective “No”.

Maybe ,it is the fear of hurting or disappointing others , or may be the fear about the opinion that others may form about us,  maybe the fear of an otherwise strong friendship or relationship breaking apart or maybe the  lack of courage in us .

But ,will any purpose be served by saying a “yes “ half heartedly, or out of pressure ? By doing this, we are going against ourselves just to please others. Our mind will be in a state of constant turmoil. We may carry on for a while , but the dissatisfaction persists.  The suppression of feelings by saying a “Yes” halfheartedly ,may lead to many health problems ,too.

Saying a “No” in a gentle manner will definitely place us in an uncomfortable state for a while , especially when the other person is very dear to us & is fully confident about our “yes”. But, believe me, peace definitely follows this state of discomfort . We feel lighter & free. We are happy that we have expressed ourselves in the right way.

Sometimes a “Yes” in the place where there should have been a “No” may prove wrong……People may start taking us for granted & sometimes it so happens that decisions are taken without our consent as they believe that there will be no opposition from our side……

So, after much analysis, I feel that we shud go according to what the heart says…….Say an emphatic “No” if the situation demands it …….We will feel better at heart…… 

Outer vs inner beauty……….

I am just writing this blog to convey how people are still obsessed with the outer beauty ………..

I happened to be in a clothesline store the other day………..I was just glancing at the new arrivals ……There were four to five people more who had come to do the purchases……As it was afternoon time, the crowd was fairly less……There were three sales men who were attending to all of us…..

Suddenly , a pretty lass entered the store…….It was like a dramatic entrance ……like how the crowd goes frenzy on seeing a film star…….It was just like a tug of war as to who will entertain that lady first……..They were pretty sure that this lady would empty at least half of the store………and they would earn some good commission…..

Two of the sales boys perched themselves in front of her whereas the third one , calm & composed was attending to all of us……

She asked for a glass of water ……..The accessories she had worn seemed quite expensive……the bag she carried , shoes, her hairstyle, the perfect makeup summed up her outer beauty……

She kept the two sales men on their toes……& they were almost running around frantically to showcase the best arrivals to her…..Almost three fourths of the store was brought down ….She didn’t seem to like any of them……In the meanwhile, I made my purchases & was on my way to pay the bill……..

I saw the pretty lass  getting up & overheard  telling her friend………”C’mon, let’s go…..Now, I m feeling a bit better…The outside heat was unbearable & spending some time here in this store has given me some respite…”….She walked away as cool as a cucumber……

All the other customers had made some reasonable purchases……..and the two sales boys seemed dejected for having wasted their time whereas the third one was beaming with joy …… He was happy for having taken the right decision of not running after the outer beauty…….

How often do we find such things happening……..Outer beauty is important but it is the inner beauty that will always win the race in the end……..

 

 

Stray puppies…….

I was terribly scared of puppies from childhood…………it’ s not that i detested them but i used to go all stiff & cold on seeing them………

But things started changing after  one of my friends adopted a female puppy from the street…..She had lost her mother a week after she was born, & her siblings ,too passed away…….She  was in a pathetic state ……..My friend started feeding her, & she took some time to get accustomed…..

But now, after eight months, she rules the house……She is there all around…….dictating to us & keeping us all on our toes…….We have to keep ourselves free during her play time, & there shud be pin drop silence during her sleep time……..She needs pampering when she falls ill , & her morning walks shud be our top priority……….but, all in all, she is a darling…….

We all feel happy that she has got a home …….Now, life has become impossible for us without her…….

Dogs teach us the most important thing in life, that is to be loyal & always loving……

And just, in February this year , another stray dog gave birth to seven cross breed puppies…….We sincerely hope that they ,too, should get a lovely ,comfortable home like our Minty (name of our dog)………..minty

LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL….

Some just carry their past along with them…..& one of them is my dear friend……

When past & present are put into a juicer, it sure would become a cocktail…….and I never prefer cocktails just because I happened to see a fruit vendor putting all stale fruits into it…… Excuse, not all may be the same but at the same time …sorry, this just cannot get out of my mind……

Let’s come to the main point..The past is a baggage…How long can we walk ahead with such a heavy baggage……I prefer walking free with nothing in my hands or slung across the shoulders…..

But ,my dear friend,…….is made of a different stuff…….she seems to be infatuated with the past……Her mind is always full of things like………….”If she had helped me, I would not have been forced to sell this house”  or  “I can never talk to that lady for she has ruined my life”….

Oh dear….I say, …..Just leave those things behind…..why are you hurt ? Because you are always expecting something from others……..and if things don’t work as per your expectations , you get a jolt &  wallow in self pity…….Know your strengths & work upon it……..Maybe you may reach greater heights……..

But, she is not the one who can easily cross this sea of change……

But I m still trying…..” Remove that blockage & set your mind free……..You will feel better”…….I say…

My God ,please save her….She is very difficult…….Life is beautiful, isn’t it ? It all depends on how you perceive it……..There may be some good that may creep out from all that you think as bad happenings……There ia always light at the end of the tunnel, isn’t it ?

 

The art of good writing………..

It’s not that it happens always…..

Some days I just find it difficult to post ……..I mean ,I can’t find enough words…..I sit cracking my knuckles for a long period, until I finally log off…..

But some days ,the words just flow as smooth as butter……Without much thinking , I go on & on……Maybe it is just that I m in a phase of good thinking……

Writing is an art..To keep the readers engrossed is another art…….I don’t have it in me but I   am trying to climb that ladder……Somedays, I crash down terribly & the ladder ,too comes down with me……

I sit there dejected, but I pull myself up, saying..”Hey ,u ve that  in u…..just keep inching forward…”…..With that self boost, I straighten the ladder again…….

Self experiences makes u a better writer or else a gud imaginative power or else closely keeping a track of things happening around……That’s the way I am trying to learn……

Am I right or is there any other way to go about it…..I wud like to hear from all of you…..Please do share ur views……….

My silence

I m quite an uninterfering person, usually silent & reserved …….But , sometimes ,I find myself in a dilemma ….I m pulled into controversies that I absolutely detest……Here is a poem that I ve penned when I was passing thro’ one of those phases…….. 

 

My silence

perturbs everyone,………

My conversations

lead to misunderstandings,…………

Thus I stand in the midst

of varied opinions

knowing not

whom to please & 

how to please,……………..

My decision to seclude myself

is resented by all,……………

They find abundant joy 

in defiling me,…………

Their restlessness 

is so apparent,…………….

My heart sympathizes

for they visualize not

what they say…………..,

Finally, I realise 

that I ve become

an important part

of their very existence…..

 

WHEN GOD VISITED ME……….IN MY DREAMS.

I heard You had come
I left everything & rushed home 
To be with You

To spend some joyous moments
Just the two of us
Sipping the cup of Love & Passion
Watching the world
Your beautiful creation
Slowly pass by

Discussing Life of Bliss & Joy
And many unpleasant happenings ,too
Of corruption , rapes, scams & violence
I , reminding You of being
Very unjust & unfair to some

All these leading to small arguments
I confronting You
Asking for an explanation
Cajoling You to unfold
The strange mysteries of Your Creation

You ,unperturbed, by my anguish
Give a smile, just an assuring smile
Lighting up everything around

Soaking in Your Warmth
So Pure & Divine
Wrapping this small world of mine
In Your Arms
Inhaling the Fragrance of Your Love

A transient Divine Light passing thro’
Experiencing a feeling of Oneness
Floating in the air
I surrender………..merging myself
Completely with You……..

O God, save our world…….

It is sometimes, really sickening & distressing to read the newspapers……Rapes, murders, robberies, frauds, blasts,terror attacks…..Still, I continued in the hope that some day the paper will be devoid of such headlines…..

But, today my hopes were completely shattered…..

The newspaper headlines of today carried the news of the rape & torture of a 5 year old child …

Are they crazy ? Can men be so savage ? That was the last straw….Absolutely disgusting….How can someone be so brutal ?& that ,too   towards an innocent child…….

Now, what will be the mental state of that child….She has her whole life ahead of her……Will she have a normal future ?

Where are we heading towards? It really pains …..

The world ,instead of progressing ahead is moving backwards……

O God…Save our world……

 

 

 

 

COURAGE

A visit to a cancer hospital recently, surprised me to see even little kids ,

putting up a tough fight against the deadly disease.

My heart went out to them ,but their courage & love for life made me pen down 

the following poem……..

COURAGE

YES, IT’S COURAGE

THE SECRET OF MY SURVIVAL……….

AS EACH SECOND OF THE DAY

SLIPS AWAY FROM MY HAND

I COUNT MY DAYS……

MY LIFE IS SHORT ,THEY SAY

BUT, I VE NO FEAR

FOR MY COURAGE

WILL HELP ME STAY……….

PEOPLE PITY ME

FOR NO REASON ,WHY,

MAYBE THEY FEAR

THAT I MAY DIE…..

BUT, WHY SHOULD I CARE 

AS LONG AS MY COURAGE 

HELPS ME SURVIVE………